Satisfying my husband during menstruation
There are a thousand halal ways to satisfy a husband when he is menstruating. In this way, you can avoid your husband masturbating or even cheating.
Question:
Bismillah ... Ustadz, how do you satisfy your husband when your wife is menstruating? may the wife (‘afwan) play her penis until the semen comes out? Does this include masturbation or not?
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From: Ana
Answer:
Bismillah was shalatu was greeting ‘ala rasulillah, amma ba’du,
There are a thousand ways to satisfy a husband when his wife is menstruating. Because Islam does not punish menstrual women physically as unclean objects that should be shunned, as is the practice of Jews. Anas bin Malik relates,
أن اليهود كانوا إذا حاضت المرأة فيهم لم يؤاكلوها ولم يجامعوهن في البيوت فسأل الصحابة النبي صلى الله عليه وسلم فأنزل الله تعالى: ويسألونك عن المحيض قل هو أذى فاعتزلوا النساء في المحيض ...
Indeed Jews, when their wives experience menstruation, they do not want to eat with their wives and do not want to stay with their wives in one house. The companions also asked the Prophet sallallaahu ‘alaihi wa sallam. then Allah sent down the verse, which means:
"They ask you about menstruation, say that menstruation is dirt, so avoid women in the part where menstrual blood comes out ..." (Surat Al-Baqoroh).
Thus, husbands can still do anything when their wives are menstruating, other than what Allah forbids in the Qur'an, which is to have intercourse.
3 Kinds of Intimate Interactions between Husband and Wife During Menstruation
There are 3 kinds of intimate interactions between husband & wife during menstruation:
First, interactions in the form of intimate relationships during menstruation. This act is unlawful with the agreement of scholars, based on the word of God,
ويسألونك عن المحيض قل هو أذى فاعتزلوا النساء في المحيض ولا تقربوهن حتى يطهرن فإذا تطهرن فأتوهن من حيث أمركم الله
They ask you about menstruation. Say: "Menstruation is a filth". Therefore, you should distance yourself from women during menstruation; and do not approach them before they are holy. when they are holy, then mix them in the place that God commanded you. Surely Allah likes those who repent and like those who purify themselves. (QS. Al-Baqarah: 222)
People who violate this prohibition, must repent to Allah, and pay kaffarah, in the form of one or half dinar. You can see information about this: Law of relating to the body after menstruation stops but not yet bathing must
Second, the interaction in the form of making out and making out in addition to the area between the navel to the wife's knee during menstruation. This kind of interaction is lawful with agreed upon scholars. A'isyah radhiyallahu ‘anha told,
كَان رَسُولُ اللَّهِ صَلَّى اللَّهُ وَسَلَّمَ إِذَا حِضْتُ يَأْمُرُنِي أَنْ أَتَّزِرَ ، ثُمَّ يُبَاشِرُنِي
When I menstruate, the Prophet sallallaahu ahu alaihi wa sallam told me to wear a sarong and then he flirted with me. (Narrated by Ahmad 25563, Turmudzi 132 and judged to be saheeh by Al-Albani).
The same thing was conveyed by Maimunah radhiyallahu ‘anha,
كَانَ رَسُولُ اللهِ صَلَّى اللهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ يُبَاشِرُ نِسَاءَهُ فَوْقَ الْإِزَارِ وَهُنَّ حُيَّضٌ
The Prophet sallallaahu aih alaihi wa sallam flirted with his wife in the area above the sarong, when they were menstruating. (Narrated by Muslim 294)
Third, interaction in the form of making out and making out on all of the wife's body besides intimate relationships and anal sex. This kind of interaction was disputed by scholars.
1. Imam Abu Hanifah, Malik, and As-Syafii argue that this kind of action is haraam. Their argument was the practice of the Prophet sallallaahu aih alaihi wa sallam, as explained by A'isyah and Maimunah.
2. Imam Ahmad, and a number of ulama hanafiyah, malikiyah and syafiiyah argued that this was permissible. And this opinion is strengthened by An-Nawawi in Shahih Muslim Syarh (3/205).
Among the arguments that support the second opinion are
a. The Word of God
وَيَسْأَلُونَكَ عَنِ الْمَحِيضِ قُلْ هُوَ أَذًى فَاعْتَزِلُوا النِّسَاءَ فِي الْمَحِيضِ
"They ask you about menstruation. Say: "Menstruation is a filth". Because of that you should distance yourself from Al-Mahidh ... "
Ibn Uthaymeen said,
The meaning of Al-Mahidh includes the menstrual period or the place of menstruation. And where menstruation comes out is kamaluan. During menstruation, having intimate relationships is illegal. (As-Syarhul Mumthi ’, 1/477)
Ibn Qudamah said,
فتخصيصه موضع الدم بالاعتزال دليل على إباحته فيما عداه
When God only orders to stay away from the place of discharge, this is the argument that besides that, the law is permissible. (Al-Mughni, 1/243)
b. The hadith from Anas bin Malik radhiyallahu ‘anhu, when the companions asked about their wives during menstruation. The Prophet sallallaahu ‘alaihi wa sallam said,
اصْنَعُوا كُلَّ شَيْءٍ إِلَّا النِّكَاحَ
"Do everything (with your wife) except marriage." (Narrated by Muslim 302).
When explaining this hadith, At-Thibi said,
إِنَّ الْمُرَادَ بِالنِّكَاحِ الْجِمَاعُ
"The meaning of the word" marriage "in this hadith is intimate relations." (Aunul ma'bud, 1/302)
Intimate relationships are called marriages, because marriage is the main reason for the intimate residence.
c. It is stated in another narration, that sometimes the Prophet sallallaahu ‘alaihi wa sallam also carried out different practices as above.
Narrated from Ikrimah, from several wives of the Prophet sallallaahu ‘alaihi wa sallam,
أن النبي صلى الله عليه وسلم كان إذا أراد من الحائض شيئا ألقى على فرجها ثوبا
"That the Prophet sallallaahu alaihi wa sallam when intending to have an intimate relationship with his menstruating wife, he told him to put a bandage on his wife's genitals." (Narrated by Abu Daud 272 and Al-Hafidz Ibn Hajar said: Sanad was strong).
Masturbation Is Not a Solution
Understand this, the husband should not need to worry when his wife is menstruating. And do not ever masturbate without the help of the wife's body. Removing semen from other than the wife's body is an illegal act, as Allah says when mentioning the criteria of a lucky believer,
وَالَّذِينَ هُمْ لِفُرُوجِهِمْ حَافِظُونَ. إِلَّا عَلَى أَزْوَاجِهِمْ أَوْ مَا مَلَكَتْ أَيْمَانُهُمْ فَإِنَّهُمْ غَيْرُ مَلُومِينَ. فَمَنِ ابْتَغَى وَرَاءَ ذَلِكَ فَأُولَئِكَ هُمُ الْعَادُونَ
Those who guard their genitals, except for their wives or slaves they have; Then indeed they in this case are not terceIa. Whoever seeks behind it, they are those who transgress. (Surat al-Mukminun: 5-7)
Among the lucky believers are people who always take care of their genitals and don't distribute them, other than to their wives and slaves. That is, as long as the husband uses the wife's body to reach the climax of lust, then it is not considered disgraceful. In contrast to "people who are looking for other things", either adultery with other women, or using help other than their wives to reach climax (read: masturbation), Allah calls this person's actions as an act of overreaching.
Allahu a'lam
There are a thousand halal ways to satisfy a husband when he is menstruating. In this way, you can avoid your husband masturbating or even cheating.
Question:
Bismillah ... Ustadz, how do you satisfy your husband when your wife is menstruating? may the wife (‘afwan) play her penis until the semen comes out? Does this include masturbation or not?
syukron
From: Ana
Answer:
Bismillah was shalatu was greeting ‘ala rasulillah, amma ba’du,
There are a thousand ways to satisfy a husband when his wife is menstruating. Because Islam does not punish menstrual women physically as unclean objects that should be shunned, as is the practice of Jews. Anas bin Malik relates,
أن اليهود كانوا إذا حاضت المرأة فيهم لم يؤاكلوها ولم يجامعوهن في البيوت فسأل الصحابة النبي صلى الله عليه وسلم فأنزل الله تعالى: ويسألونك عن المحيض قل هو أذى فاعتزلوا النساء في المحيض ...
Indeed Jews, when their wives experience menstruation, they do not want to eat with their wives and do not want to stay with their wives in one house. The companions also asked the Prophet sallallaahu ‘alaihi wa sallam. then Allah sent down the verse, which means:
"They ask you about menstruation, say that menstruation is dirt, so avoid women in the part where menstrual blood comes out ..." (Surat Al-Baqoroh).
Thus, husbands can still do anything when their wives are menstruating, other than what Allah forbids in the Qur'an, which is to have intercourse.
3 Kinds of Intimate Interactions between Husband and Wife During Menstruation
There are 3 kinds of intimate interactions between husband & wife during menstruation:
First, interactions in the form of intimate relationships during menstruation. This act is unlawful with the agreement of scholars, based on the word of God,
ويسألونك عن المحيض قل هو أذى فاعتزلوا النساء في المحيض ولا تقربوهن حتى يطهرن فإذا تطهرن فأتوهن من حيث أمركم الله
They ask you about menstruation. Say: "Menstruation is a filth". Therefore, you should distance yourself from women during menstruation; and do not approach them before they are holy. when they are holy, then mix them in the place that God commanded you. Surely Allah likes those who repent and like those who purify themselves. (QS. Al-Baqarah: 222)
People who violate this prohibition, must repent to Allah, and pay kaffarah, in the form of one or half dinar. You can see information about this: Law of relating to the body after menstruation stops but not yet bathing must
Second, the interaction in the form of making out and making out in addition to the area between the navel to the wife's knee during menstruation. This kind of interaction is lawful with agreed upon scholars. A'isyah radhiyallahu ‘anha told,
كَان رَسُولُ اللَّهِ صَلَّى اللَّهُ وَسَلَّمَ إِذَا حِضْتُ يَأْمُرُنِي أَنْ أَتَّزِرَ ، ثُمَّ يُبَاشِرُنِي
When I menstruate, the Prophet sallallaahu ahu alaihi wa sallam told me to wear a sarong and then he flirted with me. (Narrated by Ahmad 25563, Turmudzi 132 and judged to be saheeh by Al-Albani).
The same thing was conveyed by Maimunah radhiyallahu ‘anha,
كَانَ رَسُولُ اللهِ صَلَّى اللهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ يُبَاشِرُ نِسَاءَهُ فَوْقَ الْإِزَارِ وَهُنَّ حُيَّضٌ
The Prophet sallallaahu aih alaihi wa sallam flirted with his wife in the area above the sarong, when they were menstruating. (Narrated by Muslim 294)
Third, interaction in the form of making out and making out on all of the wife's body besides intimate relationships and anal sex. This kind of interaction was disputed by scholars.
1. Imam Abu Hanifah, Malik, and As-Syafii argue that this kind of action is haraam. Their argument was the practice of the Prophet sallallaahu aih alaihi wa sallam, as explained by A'isyah and Maimunah.
2. Imam Ahmad, and a number of ulama hanafiyah, malikiyah and syafiiyah argued that this was permissible. And this opinion is strengthened by An-Nawawi in Shahih Muslim Syarh (3/205).
Among the arguments that support the second opinion are
a. The Word of God
وَيَسْأَلُونَكَ عَنِ الْمَحِيضِ قُلْ هُوَ أَذًى فَاعْتَزِلُوا النِّسَاءَ فِي الْمَحِيضِ
"They ask you about menstruation. Say: "Menstruation is a filth". Because of that you should distance yourself from Al-Mahidh ... "
Ibn Uthaymeen said,
The meaning of Al-Mahidh includes the menstrual period or the place of menstruation. And where menstruation comes out is kamaluan. During menstruation, having intimate relationships is illegal. (As-Syarhul Mumthi ’, 1/477)
Ibn Qudamah said,
فتخصيصه موضع الدم بالاعتزال دليل على إباحته فيما عداه
When God only orders to stay away from the place of discharge, this is the argument that besides that, the law is permissible. (Al-Mughni, 1/243)
b. The hadith from Anas bin Malik radhiyallahu ‘anhu, when the companions asked about their wives during menstruation. The Prophet sallallaahu ‘alaihi wa sallam said,
اصْنَعُوا كُلَّ شَيْءٍ إِلَّا النِّكَاحَ
"Do everything (with your wife) except marriage." (Narrated by Muslim 302).
When explaining this hadith, At-Thibi said,
إِنَّ الْمُرَادَ بِالنِّكَاحِ الْجِمَاعُ
"The meaning of the word" marriage "in this hadith is intimate relations." (Aunul ma'bud, 1/302)
Intimate relationships are called marriages, because marriage is the main reason for the intimate residence.
c. It is stated in another narration, that sometimes the Prophet sallallaahu ‘alaihi wa sallam also carried out different practices as above.
Narrated from Ikrimah, from several wives of the Prophet sallallaahu ‘alaihi wa sallam,
أن النبي صلى الله عليه وسلم كان إذا أراد من الحائض شيئا ألقى على فرجها ثوبا
"That the Prophet sallallaahu alaihi wa sallam when intending to have an intimate relationship with his menstruating wife, he told him to put a bandage on his wife's genitals." (Narrated by Abu Daud 272 and Al-Hafidz Ibn Hajar said: Sanad was strong).
Masturbation Is Not a Solution
Understand this, the husband should not need to worry when his wife is menstruating. And do not ever masturbate without the help of the wife's body. Removing semen from other than the wife's body is an illegal act, as Allah says when mentioning the criteria of a lucky believer,
وَالَّذِينَ هُمْ لِفُرُوجِهِمْ حَافِظُونَ. إِلَّا عَلَى أَزْوَاجِهِمْ أَوْ مَا مَلَكَتْ أَيْمَانُهُمْ فَإِنَّهُمْ غَيْرُ مَلُومِينَ. فَمَنِ ابْتَغَى وَرَاءَ ذَلِكَ فَأُولَئِكَ هُمُ الْعَادُونَ
Those who guard their genitals, except for their wives or slaves they have; Then indeed they in this case are not terceIa. Whoever seeks behind it, they are those who transgress. (Surat al-Mukminun: 5-7)
Among the lucky believers are people who always take care of their genitals and don't distribute them, other than to their wives and slaves. That is, as long as the husband uses the wife's body to reach the climax of lust, then it is not considered disgraceful. In contrast to "people who are looking for other things", either adultery with other women, or using help other than their wives to reach climax (read: masturbation), Allah calls this person's actions as an act of overreaching.
Allahu a'lam
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